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Tuesday, February 8, 2011

The Time Has Come The Old Man Said To Think of Many Things, Of Rubber Spouts and Donkey Stones and Dolly Blue and Possers - By Ronnie ‘The Yorkshire Traveller’ Bray

The Time Has Come
The Old Man Said To Think of Many Things,
Of Rubber Spouts and Donkey Stones and Dolly Blue and Possers
By Ronnie ‘The Yorkshire Traveller’ Bray

Although we didn’t have a rubber spout on our teapot, many people did.  They were available at Woolworth’s and ironmongers and were cheaper that buying a whole new teapot after the spout was broken off the family’s brewer.  Never having had to have a replacement spout, I have no first hand facts of how spouts came to be broken off teapots in the first place, but I will hazard guesses that include their use as ersatz projectiles when things went awry in the domestic circle, being dropped by clumsy hands due either to old age and tremors or arthritis on the part of the handler, or too much Bentley and Shaw’s Town Ales on the part of a late night reveller who believed that the night-cap he needed was a brew of Co-op Tea.  There could be other equally satisfactory explanations, but I will leave them to your recollection.

The spouts I recall were red rubber of the same hue as the orangey-red gas piping that ran from a gas spigot against a wall to a cast iron gas ring balanced precariously on a place that was not designed to hold one, or else to the majestic rear end of a coal gas heated substantial piece of Victorian engineering that constituted the period’s last word in smoothing irons.  How it was that Victorian inventiveness did not contrive to formulate and build a gas-operated vacuum cleaner remains a mystery.  It would not have been to difficult to arrange a small steam engine or turbine inside a suitably robust and fireproof steel body that heated a cylinder of water heated by the coal gas generated at the gasworks at the bottom of Fitzwilliam Street.  Perhaps the Victorian imagination has been overstated.

We did have a teapot, and it was a large one, such that befits a lodging house and one that could travel all the way around the dining table when eight jolly lodgers were seated on their wooden chairs and supping industrial strength Pekoe Tips from pint pots that were the standard vessels of my childhood.  However, it kept its spout from the time it was fired in one of Longton’s kilns to the day it was retired in the mid-fifties of the nineteen hundreds.  A suitable large kettle was kept singing on the hob to refresh the pot when nearly all the tea was gone and the tea leaves awaited their resurrection by more hot water.  As to the final resting place of these mammoth vessels, I stand helpless and unable to answer.

Perhaps there is a place where odd socks, odd gloves, lost cheques, letters, and mementoes go to keep company with lost friends, lost love, lost passions, lost hopes, broken dreams and teapots with broken spouts go to await better days or, dare we hope, restoration in better times.  In the meantime we must content ourselves with whatever it is that qualifies as the equivalent of a replacement teapot spout, and hope that, whatever it is, it serves at least as well as the red rubber nose that made the old pots look cheerful despite their imperfections.


Then there is the almost disappeared Donkey Stone.  I say almost because it should not be doubted that some of the surviving corner stores in Northern England probably still have a wooden box or two stored deep in their neglected cellars, and some day they will come to light.

Donkey Stone was a trade name given to a scouring block by Edward Read & Son of Manchester, although other companies made similar stones on machines used in Roman times called Donkey Mills.  A mixture of powdered stone, cement powder, bleach powder and water.  These were ground up into a stiff paste and moulded into rectangular blocks a bench, that was cut into smaller stones usually five inches long, three inches wide and about an inch thick.  They resembled small bricks and were then laid out on drying shelves until they hardened off.  They were light, easy to break, and could be one of several colours with white and a pale yellow being the most popular.

Scouring stones were originally used to clean the grease off stone steps in the textile mills, but clever housewives used them, for decorating their front steps and windowsills after their weekly washing.  It was a matter of domestic pride for poor working people to keep the outside of their homes clean and to decorate their clean steps and sills by rubbing the scouring stones along the edges of the steps, and some would mark little triangular patterns at the angles of the stonework.  In many circumstances, it was the sole means available to the poor to assert their independence and individuality.  Once their individual marking patterns were established, they rarely changed from generation to generation.

Rag and bone men in their horses and carts would hand them out for a generous donation of old rags or clothes, but corner shops sold them cheaply enough.

The death knell for donkey stones was rung in during the nineteen-fifties and sixties as the textile communities followed giant mills into extinction, forcing the dissolution of neighbourhoods and friendships that had endured for more than one hundred years.  New houses, maisonettes, and tower blocks to which the communities were scattered were too impersonal to perpetuate the art form of Donkey Stoning.  The last scouring stone factory to close was Eli Whalley’s Lion Stone factory in Ashton-under-Lyne, that had produced them for more than ninety years.

Donkey Stone gave communities with little of intrinsic beauty built into them a noble beauty of defiance that was the only artistic impression in which most of the women could engage.  Thus, its passing means more than the loss of pretty bright patterns springing out of the grimy streets of a mill town’s working class quarter, from a people used to being pushed under, denigrated, underpaid, undernourished, and under appreciated.

Unlike ancient cave paintings of ancient times, and the more durable expressions of the oppressed sprayed in subways and on the walls of abandoned buildings, the Donkey Stone artists will soon be forgotten unless we take active steps to remember them.  And, if they are forgotten, their indomitable spirit that stood up against the pollution and noxious chimney fumes that poisoned their lives and rotted their curtains and consigned them to early graves, will also be dimmed and, in time, forgotten.

Will you make yourself a scouring stone, revive their ancient craft, and draw your own pretty lines delicately around your stoops and window sills so that another small glory is not lost to a careless world, and so that a proud but suffering people are not forgotten quite?

No, young man, Dolly Blue is not a Country singer.  Perhaps you are thinking of Dolly Parton?  Dolly Blue was a small pouch of washing day product added to the soapy water to make whites appear whiter than white.  Actually, an Oxydol washing detergent television jingle declared boldly:

O – X – Y – D – O – L
Makes whites whiter than white;
Makes colours sparkling bright.
White without bleaching,
That’s what we are preaching.
There’s nothing like Oxydol!


I never did discover what whiter than white looked like, and I doubt that anyone else did either.  Still, a little encouragement on washing day never did anyone any harm.  I don’t recall seeing bleach among the clouds of steam that took overt the scullery on Mondays, although Lanry was a common item in the kitchens of my friends.  However, I do remember Dolly bags, as the Dolly Blue containers were called.  The cotton bag enclosing the contents was tied around a short wooden stick with a thread and the stick was shaped, so that an enterprising father could ink a little face on the cheese head at the top of the stick to amuse young children.

When it was time to blue the wash, the whole thing was tossed into the copper or washing tub to release its magic powers and whiten the wash.  The advert read: “Out of the blue comes the whitest wash!”  It seemed to me to be a contradiction in terms – I had not then learned about oxymorons – but such things as these were then the stuff of life and in the hands of those that knew what they were doing and why.  When the stick was recovered, the face had vanished.  Perhaps they too will gather at the place where lost things end up.

Perhaps the saddest of all is the passing of the posser.  Possers had domes, usually made of copper, often intricately moulded with several layers and a series of eyeletted holes around the place where the possing pole was inserted into the posser head.  This was thrust into the laundry tub to force water and its soapy suds through the clothes to loosen the dirt.  The more vigour applied to this task the cleaner the clothes became and the sudsier the water grew.  The washing machine presaged the passing of the posser, but they were such attractive items that the world is a poorer place because of the passing of possers.

Washing days were probably the busiest day of the week for the housewife, especially when the housewife was really the maid-of-all-work in a lodging house, as was my mother.  For Louie, Monday was a day best viewed from Tuesday when all that remained to do was the ironing, folding, and the running up and down four flights of stairs to place the laundered clothes on each of the lodger'’ beds, in addition to those that belonged to her family.

Cleaning out the fire grate was a less burdensome task because it could be done without moving, provided that arthritis had not claimed your knees.  Laundry, on the other hand, required pulling out the laundry vats, filling them with piggins of hot water carried from the Creda electric geyser, a job that required fifteen or more trips from the sink to the vat rack, and this was followed by grating bars of household fairy soap into the water, sorting and adding the clothes, possing them vigorously until they were ‘done’ rinsing them in clean hot water to which the Dolly Blue was added, then the vat rack was trundled to the magnificent cast iron and wooden mangle to be grumbled through huge wooden rollers to extract as much water as possible.  I was sometimes assigned to turn the big red handwheel.  It was fun but eventually fatiguing, after which it stopped being fun.

There is a strangeness comes into a life when familiar things become less familiar and disappear, one by one, in a silence that makes their going hardly noticeable.  Someone said that the only constant was change.  I don’t know whether that is true in every case, but I do know that it is true in many.  But whatever the arithmetic of change might be, it is certain that the richness of past years that was there in the bits and pieces that made up the merry jigsaw puzzles of our lives, leaves us poorer in some sense with their passing, and yet something of their cheerful comfortable natures is recoverable when we set our minds to remembering them, even for no better reason than recalling past familiars lends to our fading years something of our young life with its vigour, its sense of adventure, and rekindles, briefly, our then unbroken dreams, our then not quite dashed hopes, and whatever warmth and affection we enjoyed amidst such foolish things as rubber spouts, scouring stones, dolly bags, and possers.

Now I remember.  It was Heraclitus that said, “The only constant is change.”  This wise man also said, “You cannot step twice into the same river; for other waters are continually flowing in.”  If he meant that what is there when we look at it this second, is of a different order in the next second because time changes everything, then perhaps he provided the key about what is suddenly dear to us in age that we hardly cared for in our infancy and youth.

I would only disagree with him in the matter of the love that we have for each other, for true love’s only change is to love deeper than before, to care more fondly, and to protect more urgently and vitally.  Love that does not change, or that diminishes for vacuous reasons, out of mistrust, imaginary offences, or that can be laid aside as if it never was, is not and never was true.  Such malleable affection has more in common with red rubber teapot spouts than with a loving heart, and though it brings pain to the deprived, it was ever doomed to fail at some point in time.

Rubber spouts perish, Donkey Stones wear down to nothing, Dolly Bags dissolve and mice chew away their sticks, and possers – even the most beautifully crafted of them, get trodden on, misshapen, and are eventually cast aside.  Only True Love remains imperishable, unalloyed, firm, its currency never failing but growing constantly to enlarge the soul.  When all the world’s best and least treasures are no more, only True Love remains, eternal and indestructible, and nothing can betray it. 

Copyright © 2011 – Ronnie Bray
All Rights Reserved

Friday, March 26, 2010

A Brief History of Flight

A Brief History of Flight
By Ronnie Bray


I envied boys who could make paper aeroplanes that actually flew, some of them describing wonderful patterns of flight before the well-shod and perfectly polished feet of the Lucky Devil
Launcher.

My crumpled monsters went into their death gyrations as soon as they left my fumbling fingers. Had I thought to ask one of the glitterati, I may have learned the secrets of their craft but in my world you did not ask, and in my world nobody volunteered to tell.

Yet, flight was not impossible. The school issue steel pen nibs we used to scratch and splutter our written work across our smudged feint-lined pages made excellent darts. By snapping off the two bits that made the writing points, a set of lesser but more deadly points appeared one each side of the shaft. The upper end of the shaft, designed to slide into the penholder, could be split by gently trapping it in the desk lid, taking care not to damage one’s fumbling fingers all the while. A piece of paper, deftly folded by ink-stained fingers into four, fashioned to resemble the fletch of an arrow, was inserted into the crack, and the dart was born. Being extremely light, this was no long distance dart, but it stuck into whatever it hit, provided that it was not impenetrable.

We discovered that human flesh was not impenetrable. Pete West knew, a priori, that human flesh was not impenetrable, for when I asked him to stand in front of the wooden garage doors along the little going-nowhere-lane that ran at the side of Gabriella’s Milk Bar in Trinity Street, parallel to Little Greenhead Park, as we called the leafy walk, he refused point blank. It was the only time that I have ever seen fear in Pete’s face. My most eloquent pleadings could not move him. My appeals to him to trust me, and my insistence that I was possessed of far more skill than necessary, to ‘just miss’ his trembling head were to no avail.

Yet, stories of archers shooting peerlessly at small objects placed on or near a loved one form part of our classical mythology and appear in many parts of the world, the most celebrated being that of William Tell and his son, when, had it not been for Pete’s unreasonable terror, the legend of Ronnie Bray and the pen nib dart might have overtaken the Tell story in modern romance.

Most of my dart work was confined to the classroom, where there was less wind factor to take into consideration. My mathematical knowledge applied to pyramid building would have rendered Cheops' monument a piece of paving nine yards square. My class at the time of the nib-dart explosion was Form III, ably led by tennis-playing Mr. Charles Brummitt of Farnley Tyas in my next to last year of school, except when Mr Bob Hesford, one-time goalkeeper for that repository of lost hope, Huddersfield Town Association Football Club, stepped into the lion’s den during Mr Brummitt’s unexplained and brief absence.

During some part of Bob Hesford’s short incumbency, I worked at the front edge of his desk. I have no idea why or for how long. One morning as we sat down together on opposite sides of his desk, he reached across, gave my knuckles a light tap, and said with a good natured smile, “That’s for nothing: now try something!”

It was one of those years when I applied myself to pursuits other than schoolwork. In fact, I do not recall ever getting round to schoolwork in any of my classes. I am only aware of increasing bewilderment as I was passed from one pair of hands to another with each passing year. Little wonder. No one had ever bothered to explain why I was there in the first place. I was just shovelled out of the back door like so much house dust and headed in the general direction of Spring Grove School.

I was forcibly reminded of this when I was a psychiatric nurse at St Clement’s Hospital in Ipswich, Suffolk. We admitted a man suffering from manic-depressive psychosis. He was a most interesting man who was in the florid stage of hypomania. He had embarked on many bizarre projects, spending all his family’s money in the process, insisted that he was the Prime Minister, had the solutions to all the world’s problems, and ran the whole ward ragged for a week until we managed, through chemical cocktails and good, honest psychotherapy – i.e., talking to him - to bring him down to our level of delusion. Then, we learned that we were indeed in the presence of greatness. The man was a genius who could remake a fine watch, strip and rebuild any kind of machine, tailor a suit fit for a king, and speak ten languages, probably all at the same time.

He struck up a conversation with an hostile White Russian we had been holding against his will for the better part of twelve years. He was able to tell the man, a diabetic, that he was in hospital. The man’s demeanour changed instantly. He had imagined that he was being held prisoner by the Russian Secret Police and that the daily shots of insulin we gave him - not without a struggle - were eating his brain away rather than saving his life. No one else spoke his language, and he cried when his normalised translator was eventually discharged. What a properly applied explanation can do, eh?

Well, no one explained to me why I had to go to school for the thick end of twelve years! I knew it was punishment, for what I did not know, but that was nothing new, and I knew it was very boring – not like the pictures! Pen nib darts brought welcome relief to my imprisonment. After the pen nib darts fad, nothing much happened to relieve the boredom. I pored over my books and papers, staring at the jumble of letters arranged into meaningless masses of words and wondered how others made sense of them. I was not dyslexic; I could read since I could remember, but ideas did not form in my mind too well and I turned off, just as I did with numbers. If you want to see me faint, just show me some numbers and my brain goes right off into Dreamland.

Sometimes the paper aeroplanes shot across the room. That would only happen when teacher’s back was turned, which was not often. Rule 1 for self-preservation was, “Never turn your back on them!” We were not rowdy or aggressive like kids are today, but had fine veins of twinkling mischief running through us now and then, and it surfaced again, only not me. I dare not do anything to attract attention, and was always surprised when I did. I used to doodle on my paper, drawing little inept sketches of things that rambled into my mind like the Model Lodging House at number nine Chapel Hill just below Brunswick Road Chapel. For some inexplicable reason some of us found that hilariously funny and would collapse into shaking, shuddering, wobbling jellies laughing like drains, if someone said ‘number nine’ in a silly voice.

Throwing aeroplanes when teacher was not looking was the beginning of rebellion and the reinforcement of guilt. There was some kind of feeling about even pulling a face behind teacher’s back but none of us ever did that. We rather liked our teachers, even if we did not understand them. We admired most of them and looked up to them. I knew them as a race apart.

My model of society was stratified, with teachers and policemen above parents, these more powerful than other adults, then right at the top was God, a mysterious powerful being who did things with clouds, waves, fireworks and thunder. Below God, but only just, were headmasters and ministers of religion, both of who had minions that would kill restless boys if told to do so. In that society, my dwelling place was in the dust. Most days I was just thankful to be, so long as I was not required to do anything that exposed my ignorance or lack of skill.

Other boys had to run almost the whole length of the playground to retrieve their aeroplanes, whilst mine fell at my feet. I did not even get exercise in the recovery of my sorry projects, although my back developed a high degree of flexibility.

Flight was for birds and clever boys who could whistle loud, think, and understand what was going on. Most of them could do sums and even get some of them right. They seemed to know what the teacher was saying, although there was not much discussion. They did not build ink empires in the margins of their blank papers, and the teacher never went behind them to see what they had drawn. I felt quite proud when Mr. Brummitt, a kind man, stood behind me and announced, “Whenever I want a little light entertainment, I look over Bray’s shoulder!”

Still, it would have been nice to have one of my aeroplanes fly - at least once.



Copyright © January 2001 - Ronnie Bray
All Rights Reserved


Ronnie, who hails from the West Riding of Yorkshire, England, is transplanted into the United States of America where, with his wife Gay, a native of the deserts of Arizona, he still manages to write three to five stories a week, mostly based on incidents from his interesting, troubled, and atypical childhood among the ‘dark Satanic mills’ of his beloved West Riding of Yorkshire and its gritty warm-hearted people.

The Crimes of Phil Berg

PHILIP J. BERG v. BARACK HUSSEIN OBAMA


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Has Hannity Been Waterboarded or is there another aetiology for his crassness?

American Terrorist Sleepers Aim to Wreck the USA


A few Muslims, the counterparts of the religious right in the US, held a protest about what they perceived as an insult to their Prophet Muhammad [PBUH]. I note that you are afraid that the London protesters - all British - will come to hurt you. I can assure you that they will not.

However, since you are open to warnings I will give you some warnings that are relevant to all Americans, because the terrorists groups that are intent on unleashing vile horrors, death, destruction, loss of liberty, and widespread war on American, by Americans, in any part of the world where someone looks askance at them. This is serious, because this large terrorist organisation that is seeking to disrupt American lives, the American economy, the American way of life, and deprive you of your liberties are already here!

They are called 'sleepers' because they do not attract attention to themselves until it is time for them to come out of their cells and set in place the vast conspiracy of evil and destruction that they have planned under cover of darkness. This sinister plot will leave millions of Americans in as bad a condition as the Allied Forces discovered when they liberated Belsen, Auschwitz, Treblinka, and other hell holes where unspeakable evils, torments, medical experiments, and a whole train of inhuman practices were carried out in a process determined to eradicate citizens of a certain 'type.'

These evil combinations arise from time to time and playing on the fears of people they invent baseless fears that are emotionally charged but logically bankrupt. Some of their lies are already circulating in the US, and some of the enemies of the USA have already spoken about what they will institute as the normality for America when they have stolen it from "We the People ... "

They are planting lies to foment unrest, one of the worst being that the US Government will:

~~ Establish DEATH PANELS.
~~ Deny medical aid to those citizens of a certain age.
~~ Kill grandmothers by turning off their life support systems
~~ 'Ration' access to healthcare
~~ Raise your taxes to pay for healthcare for undocumented workers
~~ Spend your taxes in abortions
~~ Bankrupt the nation
~~ Destroy the American Way of Life
~~ Place a bureaucrat between you and your doctor, and the bureaucrat will determine what - if any - treatment you can be given
~~ Force you to have end-of-life counselling whether you want it or not

What you MUST KNOW BEFORE IT IS TOO LATE is that every one of the 'frighteners' in the above list is a black-hearted lie, courtesy of the GOP and its supporters.

The Gauleiters and Quislings hiding in YOUR woodwork have overplayed their hands so that you can see what they will do once they seize power, by which time it will be too late to do anything about them. They will be in total control, and you, my friends, will be scavenging for old turnips, cabbage leaves, and rotting food so you can feed your family, because they will control thing and they will control what part of the American Pie you will be entitled to, and if you do not work for any reason, then you will be condemned as an undesirable that is not eligible for some of what they themselves have in their large houses, sumptuously furnished, with well stocked cupboards, cellars, and pantries.

Their dogs will eat better and more often that you and your dear ones.

Here is a list of recent statements by Quislings [Traitors]:

"Water boarding is not torture, it is nothing but having a little water on your face. I will volunteer to be water boarded, and I will do it FOR THE TROOPS!"

That was Sean Hannity boasting about what he would do for the troops, and telling his sycophants that nothing like torture was experienced during water boarding.

Hannity has lost respect for the American Military, because the lily-livered coward now refuses to be water boarded. By his own mouth he shows himself to be a liar and a coward.

"The Democrats will have the elderly up before a DEATH PANEL and that panel will decide whether they get treatment or not."

That monstrous and defamatory lie came from the maw of Sarah Palin.

You know Sarah; she of the 'family values' that permit lying, and blaming others for that which she has too small a character and too little integrity to accept as her very own responsibility.

Sarah the secessionist,

Sarah of "Alaska First!"

Sarah of "Me First"

Sarah of "I'll manipulate and exploit my family members whether they like it or not but if anyone except me even so much as mentions them, I will holler, shout, scream, cry, and then I still won't give back the $250,000,000.00 in clothes for me and my family that I bilked the GOP and RNC out of on the veep campaign trail."

Turncoat Grassli smiles into Obama's face, clasps his hands in token of friendship, and as soon as POTUS turns his back, Grassli thrusts the Kris in up to the hilt!

The moral: "Never turn your back when there is a patriot in the room!"


Glen Beck has finally been certified insane. Those that buy into his insanity are as dangerous as he is.

Crass Stupidity is a Constitutional Right

Examples of Crass Stupidity Include:


Ms. Teen South Carolina 2007:

"I personally believe, that US Americans are unable to do so, because some people out there, in our nation, don't have that, and, ah, I believe that our education, like such as in South Africa, and the Iraq, everywhere like such as, and I believe that they should, our education over here, in the US, should help the US, or should help South Africa, and should help the Iraq and the Asian countries, so we will be able to build up our future... for our children."



Governor Arnold Schwarzenegger:

“I think gay marriage is something that should be between a man and a woman.”



Michele Bachmann:

"This is an earthquake issue. This will change our state forever. Because the immediate consequence, if gay marriage goes through, is that K-12 little children will be forced to learn that homosexuality is normal, natural and perhaps they should try it."


Britney Spears:

"I get to go to lots of overseas places, like Canada."



Britney Spears:


"I've never really wanted to go to Japan. Simply because I don't like eating fish. And I know that's very popular out there in Africa."


George W. Bush: OB-GYNS

"Too many good docs are getting out of the business. Too many OB-GYNs aren't able to practice their love with women all across this country."



Glenn Beck

"Al Gore's not going to be rounding up Jews and exterminating them. It is the same tactic, however. The goal is different. The goal is globalization...And you must silence all dissenting voices. That's what Hitler did. That's what Al Gore, the U.N., and everybody on the global warming bandwagon [are doing]."



Jessica Simpson

"Is this chicken what I have or is this fish? I know it's tuna, but it says chicken."



Sarah Palin:

"It may be tempting and more comfortable to just keep your head down, plod along, and appease those who demand: 'Sit down and shut up,' but that's the worthless, easy path; that's a quitter's way out." - announcing that she was quitting!



Rush Limbaugh

"Exercise freaks ... are the ones putting stress on the health care system."

Non-rushed, and non-limber Limbaugh is in hospital for a suspected condition he would likely not have if he was a fitness freak and laid off the illegal drugs.



George W. Bush:

"There's an old saying in Tennessee — I know it's in Texas, probably in Tennessee — that says, fool me once, shame on — shame on you. Fool me — you can't get fooled again."


Christina Aguilera

"Where's the Cannes Film Festival being held this year?"



Kanye “Interrupter” West

“I realize that my place and position in history is that I will go down as the voice of this generation, of this decade. I will be the loudest voice.” Eh? Can you speak up?


Ted Stevens

"The Internet is not something that you just dump something on. It's not a big truck. It's a series of tubes.” Like Spaghetti?



George W. Bush:

“They misunderestimated me” This is probably impossible!



Sarah Palin:

"All of 'em, any of 'em that have been in front of me over all these years." - unable to name a single newspaper or magazine she reads, interview with Katie Couric. She blames Couric for asking a ‘trick’ question.


Craig T. Nelson

"I've been on food stamps and welfare, did anybody help me out? No. No."

Speaking on lack of fiscal responsibility. Perhaps the elves gave him the coupons and cash?


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That's all - FOR NOW - Folks, but you now there's plenty more where they came from!


:)

Behold Thy Mother
By Ronnie Bray


I watched the mothers, some young, some not so young, who had carried their fretful babies to the back of the auditorium at the conference. Though quite different women, each held their little ones close in roughly the same way, swaying gently, cooing softly into their ears, and enticing them to sleep.

The scene before my eyes misted over and changed. In my imagination I saw their babies grown to manhood and womanhood, and I knew what they would never know: that their mothers carried them, bore them, held them, sacrificed their time, comfort, and health to love them through bleak and cheerless days, troubled and tormented nights, and did whatever the moment demanded to make them well again and restore their sweet smiles of baby peace. Children grow up ignorant of every sweet or troubled moment so spent on them by their mothers.

Once assumed, motherhood can not lightly be laid down. It endures beyond the narrow confines of mortality into the far reaches of eternity, where the attributes of matriarchy are known for what they are – characteristics of deity.

The wages of motherhood are not paid in full during mortality. A mother’s labour does not stop when her heart beats its last, and her breath slips from her with a sigh. Mothers know this, but undertake the role with love and thanksgiving, accepting that ingratitude will often reward their efforts to render help or advice.

Each memory of the earliest months and years are imprinted into the mother’s heart, and burned into her brain, but the child often forgets, acting as if those days had never been, and that makes for the worst kind of pain.

Mothers are not perfect. There is no prior requirement for would-be mothers to be faultless or expert. Even so, most strive for perfection, and many get close enough to pass with honours. Children of any age who harbour the expectation that their mother should be perfect are labouring under a delusion whose identical twin is the idea that life will be fair. The best that can be said of any mother is that despite her imperfections, she tried always to do her best to raise her children well.

This upward striving, often against her intrinsic nature, is the willing sacrifice of a mother’s loving heart, swiftly turned from her own interests when the badge of “Mother” is pinned to her breast. She is always ‘mother’ although the direction and intensity of her role changes as her family grows.

Now a girl, little more than a child, nursing a newborn that demands all her devotion so that he can live, be healthy, increase in wisdom, and grow to adulthood.

Now a mature woman with three or more little ones tugging at her skirts, juggling her time, coping with the many calls and tasks that fly at her with the velocity of machine gun bullets, without diluting the love, care, and tenderness she imparts to each.

Now a matron, watching her teenaged children hover on the edge of maturity, but who still desperately need to hold her hand as they unfurl their wings before the wide blue arc of life.

Now a grandmother with smiling eyes, silver hair, and tears in her eyes cradling her grandchild and remembering.

Then a great-grandmother remembering little with clarity, her wrinkled face reverting to angelic gentleness when she is visited by sweet children whose parent’s names she has forgotten.

- - -

As Jesus hung on the Cross of Calvary, he made provision for his mother by commanding John the Beloved, Son, behold they mother. In these few words, Jesus defines our responsibilities to our mothers.

How appropriate, that even in the hour of his glory, as he made the perfect Atonement, he recognised the part his mother had played in his preparation to become the Saviour of the World, and he made provision for her to be comforted at the hour of his death, and for her continuing welfare, through the good offices of one whom he loved and trusted.

In the Fellowship of the Cross, Jesus teaches us about mothers, and the regard and esteem that he and his Father in Heaven have for them. Through this, we begin to realise the exalted station of motherhood. Someone said that mothers go down to the edge of the grave to bring their children into the world, and this is true. What is equally true is that mothers never stop loving their children, even when their children are ungrateful and, sometimes, unkind.

When I was young, I was disappointed that my mother had not made me better than I was. My feelings towards her changed when I realised that she had done her best, and I began to appreciate all that she had done for me, rather than count what I considered to be her failings. Since then, I have felt much better, and so has my mother.

Whatever our mothers may or may not have done for us, they gave us life, and nurtured us according to their imperfect best. To each of us, especially we who have not managed to be sufficiently grateful, the Voice from the Cross commands,

Behold thy mother.

Are you listening?




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